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Situationship
/ˌsɪtʃ.uˈeɪ.ʃən.ʃɪp/
An undefined romantic and sexual involvement resembling a relationship but lacking commitment, exclusivity, or shared future plans. Often deliberate.
A situationship occupies the space between a hookup and a committed relationship. Both parties typically know there is no formal label, and the ambiguity is part of the arrangement. Coined in early-2010s relationship discourse; gained mainstream usage by 2020.
Etymology & origin
A portmanteau of 'situation' and 'relationship' that entered the lexicon in the late 2010s to capture modern commitment reluctance.
✦ Relationship psychology
Provides the perks of a relationship (intimacy, companionship, sex) without the responsibility, accountability, or vulnerability required by commitment.
Live texting example
Hey, I've really loved spending time with you these past four months. I wanted to check in about what we are. Are we exclusive?
Aw, I really love what we have too! Honestly, I'm just enjoying going with the flow and not putting labels on things right now. Why ruin a good vibe? 😊
I understand, but I'm starting to get strong feelings and want to know we're moving forward.
I really care about you, but I'm just not in a place to be a boyfriend right now. Let's just keep enjoying each other's company!
Boundary guide: how to respond
- 1Decide if 'no labels' actually works for you. If you want commitment, do not compromise in hopes they will change their mind.
- 2Be honest with yourself: Staying in a situationship when you want more often leads to resentment and heartbreak.
- 3Walk away if your needs aren't met: 'I've really enjoyed our time, but I need a committed relationship to feel secure. It sounds like we want different things, so I think it's best we stop seeing each other.'
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