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Ghosting
/ˈɡoʊ.stɪŋ/
Ending a romantic or sexual involvement by abruptly stopping all communication, with no explanation given. A near-universal modern dating experience.
Etymology & origin
Popularized alongside Tinder and smartphone dating apps in the mid-2010s.
✦ Relationship psychology
Usually driven by conflict avoidance and fear of uncomfortable conversations. The ghoster chooses their own short-term comfort over the emotional closure of the person they are dating.
Live texting example
I had such a wonderful time on our dinner date last night! Let me know when you're free to hang out again 😊
Hey! Just checking in, hope your week is going well!
Did I say something wrong? No worries if you're not feeling it, just let me know.
Boundary guide: how to respond
- 1Send a single 'closing' text for your own peace of mind, then delete their number: 'Hey, since I haven't heard back, I'm assuming we're not on the same page. Wish you the best!'
- 2Do not double-text or beg for answers. Their silence is a very clear message about their maturity level.
- 3Recognize it is about them, not you. Ghosting is a reflection of their poor communication skills.
#cutoff#no closure#avoidance#rejection
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