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Baremining
/ˈbɛə.maɪ.nɪŋ/
Offering a partner the absolute bare minimum of effort, attention, and care while still expecting their full devotion in return.
Etymology & origin
A combination of 'bare minimum' and 'mining' (extracting value without putting anything back).
✦ Relationship psychology
Extremely entitled and selfish behavior. The bareminer views relationships transactionally, maximizing their own intake of emotional labor and validation while minimizing their output.
Live texting example
I spent three hours cooking this birthday dinner for you, but you forgot to even get me a card.
Well, I showed up, didn't I? You should be happy I'm here.
Boundary guide: how to respond
- 1Stop over-functioning to compensate for their under-functioning.
- 2Communicate clearly: 'I expect mutual effort in this relationship. If you're only willing to do the bare minimum, I'm going to find someone who matches my energy.'
#toxic#one-sided#entitlement#low effort
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