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Baremining

/ˈbɛə.maɪ.nɪŋ/

Offering a partner the absolute bare minimum of effort, attention, and care while still expecting their full devotion in return.

Etymology & origin

A combination of 'bare minimum' and 'mining' (extracting value without putting anything back).

✦ Relationship psychology

Extremely entitled and selfish behavior. The bareminer views relationships transactionally, maximizing their own intake of emotional labor and validation while minimizing their output.

Live texting example
I spent three hours cooking this birthday dinner for you, but you forgot to even get me a card.
Well, I showed up, didn't I? You should be happy I'm here.
Boundary guide: how to respond
  1. 1Stop over-functioning to compensate for their under-functioning.
  2. 2Communicate clearly: 'I expect mutual effort in this relationship. If you're only willing to do the bare minimum, I'm going to find someone who matches my energy.'

In use since 2024

#toxic#one-sided#entitlement#low effort
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