WarningDating Patterns
Avoidating
/əˈvɔɪ.deɪ.tɪŋ/
Chronically dating emotionally avoidant, commitment-averse people — often by an anxiously attached person who keeps choosing the unavailable.
Etymology & origin
A portmanteau of 'avoidant' (attachment style) and 'dating'.
✦ Relationship psychology
Often happens because secure people feel 'boring' to someone used to the emotional highs and lows of avoidant chases, or because dating avoidants keeps the dater safe from actual intimacy.
Live texting example
I just fell for another guy who told me on the first date that he 'doesn't believe in monogamy' and 'hates labels.' Why do I do this?!
Boundary guide: how to respond
- 1Identify your attachment patterns: Read up on anxious-avoidant trap dynamics.
- 2Learn to sit with the calm of secure partners, even if it lacks the initial dramatic chemical rush.
- 3Establish strict rules: Walk away the second someone indicates they aren't looking for commitment.
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